Christian Coaching with R.J.
R.J. specializes in helping people find and fulfill their Christian calling, especially at age 50+
"It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for." — Ephesians 1:11
"As a life coach, R.J. exemplifies the same high level of spiritual maturity, quick mind, and commitment to excellence that she displayed on Crossroads Church's staff. She is passionate about helping people find and follow their calling. As I processed significant questions about my next season in ministry, I turned to R.J. I’m so glad I did. The Lord used her coaching to give me much-needed perspective on where I was and greater clarity on where I was going. I’m delighted to recommend R.J. to you."
Dr. Steve Cordle
"R.J. helped me explore God’s purpose for transitioning into retirement. I discovered that all of my life experiences—positive and negative—had value and shaped me into who I am today. God’s plans are even greater than I imagined. I now enjoy an exciting and fulfilled retirement lifestyle. R.J., you are a blessing! Through coaching, God changed my life forever!"
Paula
Retired Leader
Federal Government Agency
"I needed to make some long-term decisions about my life and ministry. What I appreciated the most was that R.J. didn’t tell me what I needed to do; instead, she guided me with insightful questions that led me to understand how my past, gifting, interests, and experiences connect with God’s plan for my life. I highly recommend R.J. for coaching."
James Roberts
Senior Pastor
What Is Christian Calling?
There are THREE kinds of Christian calling...
God’s UNIVERSAL CALL to all people for salvation
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." – John 3:16
Your calling begins when you ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins and give Him control of your life.
God’s GENERAL CALL to all Christians to love Him and love other people
"[Jesus] answered, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and love your neighbor as yourself.' – Luke 10:27
God’s SPECIFIC CALL to every Christian to make a difference for Him
"It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for." – Ephesians 1:11
This Bible verse shows that calling is FIRST about WHO YOU ARE, and SECOND about WHAT YOU DO! As you BE genuinely yourself in relationships with Him and people, you will more fully DO your calling!
Who Has a Calling?
Every Christian is God’s precious child!
Some people believe that clergy have a higher calling than other people. I respect that opinion but do not see much biblical evidence for it. Every Christian is God’s precious child! Every Christian is His hands, feet, and voice in the world! We are not saved just so that we can go to heaven! We are also saved to make an eternal difference for Jesus here on earth!
Does Calling Stay the Same?
Calling is a combination of BEING and DOING.
The BEING might not change much...
You are always YOU. However, the longer you live in Christ, the more you discover and learn to appreciate your unique identity. The confidence for the DOING part of your calling will emerge from a more authentic BEING.
The DOING might change many times!
As you grow in clarity and confidence about your BEING (who you are), God transitions you to a newer and better fit for the DOING part of your calling. This happens regardless of age, health, finances, or circumstances.
When Can Christian Coaching Help With Your Calling?
Coaching can help with your calling when:
You have never known your calling
You sense your calling is changing
You know your calling but can’t seem to gain traction
If one of the above statements describes you, you are in a Life Calling Valley. God is developing your BEING: your character, identity, and relationship with Him. He is preparing you for the Next Level of the DOING part of your calling!
Christian coaching can help you clarify your uniquely created identity, confidence for what God calls you to do next, and strategy and courage to get there.
It’s never too late to find and fulfill your calling! Christian research shows that the best part of calling often happens in the second half, or even the third quarter, of life!
"After suffering ischemic strokes in 2009 and 2013, my life was drastically changed. As a speaker, advisor, and leader of men, I lost my confidence. R.J. listened and offered information to help my understanding. After working with R.J., I have clarity and confidence. I would recommend R.J. to anyone who wants to move forward."
Dr. Nate Brooks
Nate Brooks Consultant
"I thought I came to R.J. to help me find my calling. Little did I know how she would help me heal from trauma and move out of a deep valley. Her insightfulness and encouragement helped me find a peace I’ve never known before and move joyfully forward. All this while also finding my calling! Thank you, R.J."
Linda Lewis
Retired Personal Assistant
Energy Industry
1. Rekindle Hope for Your Calling
1. Rekindle Hope for Your Calling
Click on the blog links below:
Replace discouraging calling myths with God's truth
See God's Big Picture for your calling, and identify your current calling stage
Understand God's specific purposes for your current calling stage
2. Become Who God Created You to Be
2. Become Who God Created You to Be
Click on the blog links below:
3. Do what God Created You to Do
3. Do What God Created You to Do
Click on the blog links below:
Gain self-confidence for your calling
Get God's clarity for your calling
Take the next steps for your calling
Bonus: Get specific encouragement and tools for your calling at age 50+
Most resources from others:
Priority is obeying God
Find out what God wants you to DO, and then DO it. It's certainly important to obey God! However, prioritizing serving God before the relationship with Him causes anxiety, workaholism, health problems, and burnout.
1. R.J.'s approach:
Priority is relationship with God
Be God's child first and His servant second. BECOME who God created you to be in a newly transformational relationship with Him. Then DO what He created you to do with newfound joy, freedom, confidence, and fruitfulness.
Most resources from others:
Spiritual growth is foundation-level
Grow in Christ in foundational ways, i.e., Bible study, prayer, fasting, worship, community, serving, and other powerful spiritual disciplines. This is the essential way to start, but it is only the beginning. There's so much more!
2. R.J.'s approach:
Spiritual growth is next-level
Learn additional biblical, transformational ways of knowing God. These ways are almost certain to be new to you, no matter how long you've been following Christ. Next-level DOING in your calling requires certainty about your uniquely personal value to God.
Most resources from others:
One program for everyone
Find your calling by assessing spiritual gifts, strengths, passions, personality, and world needs. This process is valuable and works best for younger and newer Christians, but it is often "old hat" for older and more experienced followers of Christ.
3. R.J.'s approach:
Highly personalized coaching
Build upon the foundation. Find and fulfill your calling using a highly individualized approach based on your age, length of time following Christ, stage of calling, uniquely created identity, and especially your next transformational steps for growing in Christ.
Most resources from others fit younger people and newer Christians best
Younger people and newer Christians need the foundation of an obedience-based, foundational-level, programmatic approach. But older and more experienced Christians frequently express a God-given desire for "something more."
4. R.J.'s approach especially fits older and/or more experienced Christians
Older and more experienced Christians benefit most from a next-level relationship with God and a uniquely personalized approach to finding and fulfilling their Christian calling. R.J. Has designed these kinds of calling and growth tools specifically for ages 50+. Her extensive research, years of coaching, and personal experience prove that the sweet spot of calling is in the last quarter of life.
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” -Joshua 1:9
"Coaching with R.J. is an empowering journey. R.J. asks insightful questions that unlock new ideas and concepts. I always walk away with something … an action step or a thought to process. With R.J., I start with questions and end with strategy. I highly recommend working with R.J."
Christy Gibas
Lead Pastor
"I never thought I needed a life coach, but after 34 years in technology, I was confused enough to try. What a great experience! I identified the mountaintops and valleys of my calling; leaned into my strengths, weaknesses, successes and failures; and became an encourager to kingdom-building leaders."
Pat Roddy
Retired Software Exec & Church Op Dir.
Currently supporting pastors through
leadership challenges.
Affordable Pricing
$195 for three 50-minute Christian coaching sessions per month (or $65 per session). No long-term contract.
Coaching fees are about 50% of the current market rate. Ministry is joyfully done for the glory of God.
"R.J. helped me refine and understand why I was feeling a lull in my current business and which direction to take in my career/business shift. She helped me clarify why I was doing what I was doing and shift to where I wanted to go."
Jonathan White
Entrepreneur
Accelerate Living Podcast
"A divorce and setbacks in my business left me rudderless, so I contacted R.J. The transformation in my thought processes has enabled me to start over and begin again! It’s wonderful to have passion restored and spiritual focus and balance defined."
Jacki Lynn Baynks
Certified Color Consultant
Schedule a FREE 30-minute Discovery Call
Find out more about coaching with R.J. to find and fulfill your Christian Calling, especially if you are age 50+. Connect via Phone or Zoom.
"I enjoy coaching with R.J. As a working mom of six, taking time to reflect on life is difficult. Through coaching, I see how God is working in my life. R.J. helps me learn to trust God’s timing—my faith continues to grow. I am so thankful for her encouragement and guidance. She helps me keep life in perspective."
Liz Lee
Business Consultant
Mother of Six
"R.J. was instrumental in helping me gain new insights into my calling journey as a leader. This clarity has helped me grow in my faith during what author Tony Stolzfus calls the Valley of Identity. If you’re wondering where God is leading and desiring to move forward with purpose and intention, I highly recommend R.J.!"
Julie Smith
Leadership and Health Coach